Focus on your strengths to build mental skills
I wanted to look at the topic this week of focusing on your strengths to achieve greater mental skills because many times we get caught up focusing on what we are not good at, and it causes a lot of problems and mental stress. We all have our weaknesses things we are not good at, but if we look at others and see their strengths and then are hard on ourselves for not being as good as they are at something we can really set out selves back from reaching a goal and just being happy.
It is important to know what your strengths are and focus on them as equally or more then you focus on what you are not good at. Yes you do need to work on things that you are not good at, but it is very important to understand your gifts, because it is our strengths that give us the opportunity to set ourselves apart from others. Those who succeed are not without their faults or limitations, they just know how to leverage their strengths and manage the challenges and surround themselves with people to help manage the challenges. This is one of the reasons I have clients take an assessment to help understand what their strengths are and how to leverage them and what are their limitations and how to manage them.
We are most successful when what we are doing and our strengths match up. The more we can match these two things together the better off we will be in the long run. If our limitations are managed appropriately they never really impact us, unless we allow them, and this happens when you overly focus on them. So find your strengths and let them set you apart.
Comparison is one of the worst things we can do for our mental health. Now this isn't to say we shouldn't look at others to help us, but it has to be done with a different mindset. More of a mindset of finding a worthy rival. When we focus on a worthy rival we focus on how their strengths can push us to be better, to see how we can get better, adjust our game or understand our areas of weakness. Now in the same light we must understand that just as they have areas that are better than us, we too have areas of our game that are better than them. A worthy rival allows us to be pushed and get feedback on how we are improving without falling into the comparison trap, and getting upset when we compare our weaknesses to someone else's strengths. Find a worthy rival, rather than comparing yourself to everyone around you.
To your success,
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Kate Allgood Masters Sport Psychology (with distinction) Masters General Psychology (with distinction) Sports Hypnosis Certification Mindfulness Certification
TAIS Assessment Certified